What's the Most Common Mistake when Dealing with Uncertainty?
Hands down, the main foul-up is people mismanaging themselves.
One of the best examples of this mistake is when people try to control things that are beyond their reach. This happens when we seek to run other people’s lives, or when we struggle to change circumstances that aren’t ours to change. It’s a frustrating, spirit-killing exercise, but you’ll be tempted to try.
People also mismanage themselves to the other extreme, like when they forfeit their ability to steer themselves through the unknowns. Feeling vulnerable and assuming helplessness, they abdicate their power, resigning themselves to the winds of chance. Naturally, this passivity invites even more drift into their lives. In fact, you might ask yourself how much of the uncertainty you’re feeling these days is actually caused by you—e.g., could part of it be your own lack of commitment, unclear intention, a shortage of initiative, or unwillingness to risk?
Just remember, your big controllable is you. Focus there. You’re the person in charge of your attitude, your thinking, your behavior—that’s all you—and you’re the one who must maneuver yourself through the uncertainty.
You can decide to curl up in a fetal position and cry. You could choose to be angry and go throw rocks at cars. You’re free to resign from reality and lose yourself in wishful thinking. You can drive yourself crazy trying to read the end of this uncertainty story that’s yet to be written.
Or, another option: You can stay fully present in the moment—explore the mystery of this nowness—and live into the uncertainty with everything you’ve got. It’s your call.
"The most common way people give up their power is by thinking they don’t have any." —Alice Walker